Attributes to Develop
Work in these areas can help uncover hidden gifts and talents.
• Noticing and validating feelings
• Empathy
• Nurturing and supporting others
• Building one’s own foundation and security
• Honest disclosure of feeling and insecurities
• Humility
• Accepting others’ foibles and fluctuating moods without judgment
• Staying centered in one’s own feelings
Tendencies to Leave Behind
Working to reduce the influence of these tendencies can help make life easier and more enjoyable.
• Needing to control everything and everyone
• Compulsion to take charge without fully understanding the situation
• Ignoring the process; being too focused on the goal
• Feeling completely responsible for everything
• Hiding feelings and fears in intimate relationships
• Doing things to gain respect or admiration from others
• Taking care of others’ feelings and neglecting one’s own
• Doing what is “socially acceptable” rather than what is totally honest
• Thinking that things have to be difficult in order to be important
